Alzheimer’s Getting Worse?
No not you. Your loved one, the person you are caring for? Why do I ask? Because in the beginning, we think we can manage. Maybe we can slow it down, but then the little changes add up, and now it’s a lot different. We may even be seeing the limits of our ability to provide the proper care on the horizon. And we are having the little nagging thoughts that maybe it would be best if mom/dad/husband/wife were in a place where they can keep him/her safe.
But maybe you promised never to put them in one of those places? Maybe they are too “with it” to accept placement? Maybe you want to wait just a little longer? At some point, and only you know that place, you are going to either concede that the ability to provide proper care is beyond you, or you are going to start rationalizing excuses.meta name=”google-site-verification” content=”GJ7daI4OPI38bAsojXYGdjytM7EgfGO4YfjJHtb6Bbo” /
I don’t want to burst your bubble, rain on your parade, but I don’t want you to burn out either. Because with burn out very often come serious illness. And the truth is there are places where they provide the care, the environment, and the safety that your family member needs. Imagine that a board and care is providing for your loved ones needs, so you are free to just spend quality time with them?
By the way, for those of you that are here at this blog for the first time, my name is Donahue Vanderhider, I am a Gerontologist. A big word for “expert on aging”. My training is from the first doctorate program ever started, which is at the University of Southern California and almost 20 years in the field. I have been on the speakers bureau of the Alzheimer’s Association for much of that time, and I have been the executive director of several licensed assisted living communities in California.
I am telling you all this, because I have seen and counseled hundreds of families like yours. Sadly, I see the inevitable conclusion, and I want to help you make the most of your time with your loved one. You may be presenting a tough exterior to the world, but I know that deep down your heart is breaking. And maybe you feel that you have to in order to keep going day in and day out without breaking down. I understand, it’s no surprise that they say caregiving is the most stressful thing you can experience.
But I want to help, and I offer you this: if you have a question, ask it! If you want to share your experience, by all means do so right here! Many people will see it. In the coming weeks I will be launching a podcast for families. Because there is no point in reinventing the wheel. Sign up and get some great guidance. Please stay in touch, if you want to be notified sign up at:
Finally, I don’t want to end without making a pitch for an organization that I have known since they started. As an executive director I have see many families find the right place for their loved one through this organization:A Place For Mom.It is a free service to families (if you pick a community they will pay “A place for mom” its SOP (standard operating procedure). But you will never pay a cent. In fact, people that use placement agencies often get a lower rate.
Talk to you (literally) very soon…
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Alzheimer’s getting worse?
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No not you. Your loved one, the person you are caring for? Why do I ask? Because in the beginning, we think we can manage. Maybe we can slow it down, but then the little changes add up, and now it’s a lot different. We may even be seeing the limits of our ability to provide the proper care on the horizon. And we are having the little nagging thoughts that maybe it would be best if mom/dad/husband/wife were in a place where they can keep him/her safe.
But maybe you promised never to put them in one of those places? Maybe they are too “with it” to accept placement? Maybe you want to wait just a little longer? At some point, and only you know that place, you are going to either concede that the ability to provide proper care is beyond you, or you are going to start rationalizing excuses.
I don’t want to burst your bubble, rain on your parade, but I don’t want you to burn out either. Because with burn out very often come serious illness. And the truth is there are places where they provide the care, the environment, and the safety that your family member needs. Imagine that a board and care is providing for your loved ones needs, so you are free to just spend quality time with them?
By the way, for those of you that are here at this blog for the first time, my name is Donahue Vanderhider, I am a Gerontologist. A big word for “expert on aging”. My training is from the first doctorate program ever started, which is at the University of Southern California and almost 20 years in the field. I have been on the speakers bureau of the Alzheimer’s Association for much of that time, and I have been the executive director of several licensed assisted living communities in California.
I am telling you all this, because I have seen and counseled hundreds of families like yours. Sadly, I see the inevitable conclusion, and I want to help you make the most of your time with your loved one. You may be presenting a tough exterior to the world, but I know that deep down your heart is breaking. And maybe you feel that you have to in order to keep going day in and day out without breaking down. I understand, it’s no surprise that they say caregiving is the most stressful thing you can experience.
But I want to help, and I offer you this: if you have a question, ask it! If you want to share your experience, by all means do so right here! Many people will see it. In the coming weeks I will be launching a podcast for families. Because there is no point in reinventing the wheel. Sign up and get some great guidance. Please stay in touch, if you want to be notified sign up in that box to your left.
Finally, I don’t want to end without making a pitch for an organization that I have known since they started. As an executive director I have see many families find the right place for their loved one through this organization: It is a free service to families (if you pick a community they will pay “A place for mom” its SOP (standard operating procedure). But you will never pay a cent. In fact, people that use placement agencies often get a lower rate.
Talk to you (literally) very soon…
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We All Have One Thing In Common
If there is one thing in common for all caregivers it’s STRESS! It doesn’t seem to matter if you are caring for a parent or spouse or friend; if you are doing it long-distance or you are living in the same house – all caregivers suffer from stress. Call it “worry” , “anxiety”, “fear” or any other word, the result is the same.
By result I mean the toll it is taking on your body and on your health. It is proven that long-term stress triggers the HPA response in your body. The HPA response refers to the Hypothalamic–pituitary–adrenal axis. The end result of which is a triggering of the same hormones and neurotransmitters that are released in the “fight or flight” response.
“Fight or Flight” is the bodies emergency response system designed to survive an immediate threat to life and limb. Which is great, except when it does not turn off. The same response system when left on too long starts to eat away at our immune system, thus increasing the chance of catching colds, flus, and other illness. But that is only the beginning. it also starts tearing away at the body so that what helps us in the short term, starts damaging us in the long run, increasing our chances for heart attack, stroke, diabetes, and much more.
Almost every caregiver I ever met, was a caregiver for the first time, on a steep learning curve, and was thrust into the roll unexpectedly. Naturally, it is very stressful: financially, emotionally, and physically. It strains family relationships and disrupts plans and goals.
However, caregivers must remember to take care of themselves. If you are a caregiver you are probably struggling on your own, with little or no help. But if something should happen to you what will happen to your loved one? Do you see why controlling stress is so important. Half of all caregivers pass away before the person they caring for. I don’t mean to be an alarmist, but you need to start taking better care of yourself.
How? By taking advantage of all the programs and services that are available for caregivers. Many of them for little or no money. You may be an expert in your field. But I am an expert in this field. If you need to do taxes you go to an accountant, if you go to court you need a lawyer, if you are building a home you go to a contractor. Why would you try to delve into the world of caregiving without guidance?
Do you know how much money you are losing going it alone? First, there are services, products and ideas that you missed because you did not know about them, then there are the cheaper (and sometimes better) alternatives to the things you DO know about, and finally there is the value of all the lost time you spent researching the tasks and services that you did find.
Consider signing up for my mailing list as part of that research. You may very well be glad you did, and if you learn nothing new or helpful, it cost you nothing. Just sign up above right now and get a free stress management recording that can de-stress your day to day frustrations. Later you will get a free ebook on how to handle “sundowning” or wandering, a very dangerous symptom that happens to about 70% of Alzheimer’s sufferers. Just follow this link: Click Here!
It really is time to do something.
Are you caring for one or both of your parents? Chances are, if they are still with us, then you are or you will very very soon. If you are living with them, or they are living with you the answer is easy – yes. But be honest, even if they are not living with you, how much are doing for them right now? Is it more than you were doing a year ago? It’s a good chance that if your parents are alive you are going to get pulled into their world more than you ever planed. It is the nature of family to assist our elders when they start to get frail. But there is a point when it starts to take over our lives. What starts out as an occasional shopping trip starts to become…more. Pretty soon you are finding your plans always taking into account mom or dad. You may already feel stretched thin, maybe even a little bit resentful.
So now we are looking at two groups. The dedicated, committed caregiver of which there are over 10 million in the US. That’s right 10.9 million unpaid caregivers as of this year 2010. If you are one, do yourself a favor, seriously, sign up on my website, sign up on someone elses website, but stop trying to do it alone. There are people out there trying to help you.
Then there is the other group. Those of you that are weekend parents to your parents. You are doing the little things, helping them fill prescriptions, get new hearing aides, take them out for a meal, etc. But its getting worse isn’t it? Are you getting the phone calls every day? You will. Are you setting up their pills in those weekly containers? You will. Are you thinking they could benefit from one of those senior homes that provide companionship and care? you will. You will do all that and more. Because if your parents are alive, they are going to need help, they are not as independent as they used to be, and it gets worse. When you were not looking, you became a parent to your parents.
It is time to do something. Whatever you are doing for your folks, I can almost guarantee that you’re working harder than you have to, and you’re spending more money than have to, and for every idea you have, somebody else thought about and perfected it! Look, you are on internet as you read this, right? Everything you could imagine is here. But its a big place. It could take you a while to find what you need, and you might miss some good stuff altogether. You found this article, and that’s a good start. Why don’t you take me up on my offer: sign up for my list. I will send you nothing but the best information, on just about any subject that has to do with aging, parents, caregiving, dementia, and much much more.
anxiety attacks
Prevent your Next panic episode Stop Your panic episode Dead In Its Tracks
what ’s a Panic Attack?
A panic episode is a sudden feeling of intense fret that start s for no clear reason and triggers serious physical reactions. You can feel afrai d to leave your hom e or to be left alone in case something nasty might happen to you. You may feel suffocated, shaking, stomach discomfort and muscle discomfort all over your body. You may thing you are losing your mind, or maybe dying.
When a panic attack Turns Into a Panic Disorder
After having these panic fit s the first few times, you begin to be scared of the following panic episode. You m ay find yourself on guard all of the time, terrifie d of the subsequent surprise panic fit. Just the concept of having another painful fear is paralyzing you. Who can you trust? Are you alone feeling like this? Are you going crazy? Are you dying? Panic disorder is a living hell. The better news is that you should no t believe any one that tells you th at this condition can no t be cured.
What NOT TO DO to prevent Your Next panic episode
most of the people, in an attemp t to forestall panic attack s, try to avoid situation s that trigger them. Any place that makes them feel dangerous, they avoid. This is no t the way to go’ this only gets them occupied and far more concentrat ed on the subsequent panic episode. This only leads to bigg er fear and the issue becomes worse.
What c auses panic attacks?
panic episode s are a result of many physical, psychologic al and emotional triggers. Sometimes genetics are concern ed and this can surprise you’ but are you aware that even certain allergies and food types can trigger tension and panic attacks? There a re one or two medic ine s that can cause panic fit s and naturally there are memories and trauma concern ed. Upsett ing everyday events and bad memories combin es may also cause panic attack s
the way to stop your next panic episode Be Prepared!
When you are not in a condition of anxiety or panic, start a list of things that shock you. When it’s done, write down reassuring and relax ing statements that relax you. The exact opposite of your fears. When the next panic fit emerge s, take this list and use it immediatel y. Fill your list with plenty of calm ing messages.
this may be very use ful to prevent panic episode s. It is important to stop the panic attack dead in its tracks and this is a straightforward way to do that.
life style changes to stop panic attack s
* Join a support group for folk with panic attack s ; discover you a re a long way from being alone and share experiences and panic relief technique s.
* Avoid caffeine and alcohol, both of them can trigger your next panic episode s.
* Practice relaxation system s, like Meditation and yoga.
* Get some exercise exercise will lift your spirits and enhanc e your confidence ( yes! Try it out), since aerobic activity
* Get good nights sleep sleeping issue s will exhaust you and you can get more exposed to panic fit s.
one Natural methodology to stop panic fit s
there i s a n amazing simple way to prevent panic attack s permanently, but you w on’t hear about it from your psychiatrist, doctor or drug company. It involves cognitive therapy eas y to follow steps without any medic ation.
Depression Will Go Down With The Right Help
n 2010~As of today~These days}, a very big portion of the people are influenced by problems relating from depression. Although a fraction of those actively seek help for the treating of a doctor or mental health counselor. That suggests a smaller portion are not treated and may actually never find the help they really deserve. Now, of the 40% going through serious down feelings and anxiety, 15% choose to improve with analysis. Twenty five percent are cared for with an SSRI we hear about like Cymbalta or Prozac. Then what remains is a very few people to lower their down feelings of a serious order with natural choices.
But as you realize the amazing revolution that this chemical solution has started, you’ll likely be somewhat doubtful. It’s only natural that you would wish to know if the facts are there to back it up, the what’s, and the other oddities that come with new and unknown territory. It always helps to find out the quantity of folks who have employed a particular type of pill successfully compared to those who used with negative outcomes. Here is a look into a statistical approach of beneficial medication treatments. Stress escalate in a considerable number of secondary symptoms, eg sleeplessness or exorbitant fatigue, panic attacks, and plenty of different worrying uncomfortable symptoms.
Data shows worrying details concerning the employment of serotonin inhibitors that the general public are surely not aware of. Anti-depression drugs work for 40%of sufferers, while more current data sets suggest as low as thirty percent. People acquire normal mood suppressants like Paxil and Zoloft, have recently been revealed to have major problems, and links to psychosis, and and brain tumors. Anxius is the most typically utilized natural alternative choice to depression and agitation. As it is formulated from herbs with recognized properties to help in for such issues.
Separately when you become wired, find a place where you can be alone, lie down and then do deep inhalations and exhalations for three minutes. This should restore your breathing which turns shallow with anxiety and you meet the brain with oxygen as well. Even if you don’t have zoloft headache you must take breathing pauses each day to alleviate tension and moody feelings.
These changes alleviate anxiety and depression. With the pill stuff you can get side effects. If you have a headache caused by zoloft you should tell your physician about it straight away. Of course,this headache can simply be a short term thing. The internal organs wants a bit of time to get used to it and for the help for your anxiety to be in effect.
Depression Will Go Down With The Right Help
n 2010~As of today~These days}, a very big portion of the people are influenced by problems relating from depression. Although a fraction of those actively seek help for the treating of a doctor or mental health counselor. That suggests a smaller portion are not treated and may actually never find the help they really deserve. Now, of the 40% going through serious down feelings and anxiety, 15% choose to improve with analysis. Twenty five percent are cared for with an SSRI we hear about like Cymbalta or Prozac. Then what remains is a very few people to lower their down feelings of a serious order with natural choices.
But as you realize the amazing revolution that this chemical solution has started, you’ll likely be somewhat doubtful. It’s only natural that you would wish to know if the facts are there to back it up, the what’s, and the other oddities that come with new and unknown territory. It always helps to find out the quantity of folks who have employed a particular type of pill successfully compared to those who used with negative outcomes. Here is a look into a statistical approach of beneficial medication treatments. Stress escalate in a considerable number of secondary symptoms, eg sleeplessness or exorbitant fatigue, panic attacks, and plenty of different worrying uncomfortable symptoms.
Data shows worrying details concerning the employment of serotonin inhibitors that the general public are surely not aware of. Anti-depression drugs work for 40%of sufferers, while more current data sets suggest as low as thirty percent. People acquire normal mood suppressants like Paxil and Zoloft, have recently been revealed to have major problems, and links to psychosis, and and brain tumors. Anxius is the most typically utilized natural alternative choice to depression and agitation. As it is formulated from herbs with recognized properties to help in for such issues.
Separately when you become wired, find a place where you can be alone, lie down and then do deep inhalations and exhalations for three minutes. This should restore your breathing which turns shallow with anxiety and you meet the brain with oxygen as well. Even if you don’t have zoloft headache you must take breathing pauses each day to alleviate tension and moody feelings.
These changes alleviate anxiety and depression. With the pill stuff you can get side effects. If you have a headache caused by zoloft you should tell your physician about it straight away. Of course,this headache can simply be a short term thing. The internal organs wants a bit of time to get used to it and for the help for your anxiety to be in effect.
anxiety attacks
Prevent your Next panic episode Stop Your panic episode Dead In Its Tracks
what ’s a Panic Attack?
A panic episode is a sudden feeling of intense fret that start s for no clear reason and triggers serious physical reactions. You can feel afrai d to leave your hom e or to be left alone in case something nasty might happen to you. You may feel suffocated, shaking, stomach discomfort and muscle discomfort all over your body. You may thing you are losing your mind, or maybe dying.
When a panic attack Turns Into a Panic Disorder
After having these panic fit s the first few times, you begin to be scared of the following panic episode. You m ay find yourself on guard all of the time, terrifie d of the subsequent surprise panic fit. Just the concept of having another painful fear is paralyzing you. Who can you trust? Are you alone feeling like this? Are you going crazy? Are you dying? Panic disorder is a living hell. The better news is that you should no t believe any one that tells you th at this condition can no t be cured.
What NOT TO DO to prevent Your Next panic episode
most of the people, in an attemp t to forestall panic attack s, try to avoid situation s that trigger them. Any place that makes them feel dangerous, they avoid. This is no t the way to go’ this only gets them occupied and far more concentrat ed on the subsequent panic episode. This only leads to bigg er fear and the issue becomes worse.
What c auses panic attacks?
panic episode s are a result of many physical, psychologic al and emotional triggers. Sometimes genetics are concern ed and this can surprise you’ but are you aware that even certain allergies and food types can trigger tension and panic attacks? There a re one or two medic ine s that can cause panic fit s and naturally there are memories and trauma concern ed. Upsett ing everyday events and bad memories combin es may also cause panic attack s
the way to stop your next panic episode Be Prepared!
When you are not in a condition of anxiety or panic, start a list of things that shock you. When it’s done, write down reassuring and relax ing statements that relax you. The exact opposite of your fears. When the next panic fit emerge s, take this list and use it immediatel y. Fill your list with plenty of calm ing messages.
this may be very use ful to prevent panic episode s. It is important to stop the panic attack dead in its tracks and this is a straightforward way to do that.
life style changes to stop panic attack s
* Join a support group for folk with panic attack s ; discover you a re a long way from being alone and share experiences and panic relief technique s.
* Avoid caffeine and alcohol, both of them can trigger your next panic episode s.
* Practice relaxation system s, like Meditation and yoga.
* Get some exercise exercise will lift your spirits and enhanc e your confidence ( yes! Try it out), since aerobic activity
* Get good nights sleep sleeping issue s will exhaust you and you can get more exposed to panic fit s.
one Natural methodology to stop panic fit s
there i s a n amazing simple way to prevent panic attack s permanently, but you w on’t hear about it from your psychiatrist, doctor or drug company. It involves cognitive therapy eas y to follow steps without any medic ation.
Depression Will Go Down With The Right Help
n 2010~As of today~These days}, a very big portion of the people are influenced by problems relating from depression. Although a fraction of those actively seek help for the treating of a doctor or mental health counselor. That suggests a smaller portion are not treated and may actually never find the help they really deserve. Now, of the 40% going through serious down feelings and anxiety, 15% choose to improve with analysis. Twenty five percent are cared for with an SSRI we hear about like Cymbalta or Prozac. Then what remains is a very few people to lower their down feelings of a serious order with natural choices.
But as you realize the amazing revolution that this chemical solution has started, you’ll likely be somewhat doubtful. It’s only natural that you would wish to know if the facts are there to back it up, the what’s, and the other oddities that come with new and unknown territory. It always helps to find out the quantity of folks who have employed a particular type of pill successfully compared to those who used with negative outcomes. Here is a look into a statistical approach of beneficial medication treatments. Stress escalate in a considerable number of secondary symptoms, eg sleeplessness or exorbitant fatigue, panic attacks, and plenty of different worrying uncomfortable symptoms.
Data shows worrying details concerning the employment of serotonin inhibitors that the general public are surely not aware of. Anti-depression drugs work for 40%of sufferers, while more current data sets suggest as low as thirty percent. People acquire normal mood suppressants like Paxil and Zoloft, have recently been revealed to have major problems, and links to psychosis, and and brain tumors. Anxius is the most typically utilized natural alternative choice to depression and agitation. As it is formulated from herbs with recognized properties to help in for such issues.
Separately when you become wired, find a place where you can be alone, lie down and then do deep inhalations and exhalations for three minutes. This should restore your breathing which turns shallow with anxiety and you meet the brain with oxygen as well. Even if you don’t have zoloft headache you must take breathing pauses each day to alleviate tension and moody feelings.
These changes alleviate anxiety and depression. With the pill stuff you can get side effects. If you have a headache caused by zoloft you should tell your physician about it straight away. Of course,this headache can simply be a short term thing. The internal organs wants a bit of time to get used to it and for the help for your anxiety to be in effect.